Do you ever get that feeling when it’s just too much..too much of everything? Your breathing becomes faster and faster, your cheeks get hot and you just feel that strange spinning feeling inside of you, almost like you can see yourself from above.
It happened to me a month ago when we came back from holidays. Holidays are amazing, wonderful and relaxing, but the aftermath is terrifying. It’s like the world grins at you with sarcastic smile and says: “So you had fun, did you? Now it’s time to pay”.
And reality struck with all it’s glory: buy food, pick up dog, call parents, call friends, wash piles and piles of dirty laundry, clean, cook, drive though all country to visit families and the most terrifying – open work email to see 300 unread emails. Oh and the jet lag did not helped to deal with all that J
Situations like this happens every day to everyone, but every day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace. And it is very easy to choose stress without even realizing it, but if you want to choose peace there are some things that I practice and it might help for you as well.
Worry about one thing at the time
If you have so many things to do and you don’t even know where to start, just start doing one thing at the time. If you need food, just worry about food and when that is sorted worry about piles of dirty laundry and when that is done, worry about cooking, etc. Not overthinking sometimes is the best way to cope with endless duties, choars or tasks.
What really helps me to push through is visualizing time for myself when everything is done, even if that “me” time is three weeks from now. Just visualize what will you do, eat, read when that time comes and push just a little bit harder towards that well deserved reward.
It does not mean to be in place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work
It is to be in the middle of those things and still be calm in your heart
When world comes tumbling down on you, sometimes all you need and can do is to meditate. It doesn’t matter what meditation means to you, deep breathing, listening to music or going for a run. Whatever helps you to relax and step back and not to go crazy J For me it’s running, when it seems that the world is going to an end, I run. It helps me to clear my mind and get rid of all negativity demons in my head.
Be easy at yourself
Don’t push yourself to hard. Believe me, the world is not going to end with 4 apocalypse horses coming to get you, if you wash those clothes tomorrow. I know that sometimes we think “it needs to be done today” and sometimes it really does, but sometimes it just doesn’t matter. It’s ok to let the imperfections in, it’s ok to accept other standards then perfection.
Life is hard, but only you can choose how to live it, only you choose peace or chaos.
“Peace doesn’t require two people, it requires only one. It has to be you. The problem begins and ends there” – Byron Katie.
Book to read: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
Guided meditations: The Honest Guys